how to handle this MIL sending emails to work accounts...NMR
From:
NewlyWeds13 
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:38 AM
Sorry to post on this board, but have received got level headed advice from people on this board.
So MIL continually sends political propaganda from her office email to a huge distribution list (including me, DH, and my aunt and grandma- who raised me as my parents passed away for for simlicity it is like my parents).
Anyways-- my grandma asked her to take her off these lists as she does not check her email often and my aunt told her the truth that she did not like to get political forwards especially when you do not know the person's political beliefs. MIL keeps sending it out. my DH has asked his mother to take all of us off her list and she just keeps doing it.
My aunt finally got so mad that she responded back to one that it was a 3 KBfile and clogged her work email and that she can not allow her to email her so she was forced to block her email address as junk mail.
MIL got mad and told DH that my aunt was being mean and that how is she going to write her now if she actually needs something.
My MIL is so rude and has no judgement so this is not a surprise, but my aunt has asked me if there is a preferable way that I wanted her to handle, given that she can not have those files sent to her work.
Any thoughts or recomendations?
Replies:
From:
Mrs.Angeles
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:41 AM
can you give her another e-mail account that is not the work account?
if all she sends are forwards, maybe you can set one up just for her forwards.
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From:
GypsyLou
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:41 AM
No advice here, but that is really sh!tty of your MIL. i find 99.9% of email forwards to be annoying. If she was asked to stop - she should just stop.
From:
6fsn
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:42 AM
Block the MIL address. You have all tried to be nice, but your MIL just isn't getting it.
From:
MVP
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:42 AM
Personally, I'd just block her account and NOT tell her.
Easy solution and everyone is happy.
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From:
Mrs.JulesH-S
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:43 AM
I would just be honest. Tell her 1. it is clogging up your work email and stuff you actually need for work isn't coming through. 2. You find it rude to forward political forwards to people when you don't know their feelings on them.
I have friends who INSIST on doing this as well and I hate it. I finally had to get rude with them to get them to stop. I hated to do it but something had to be done.
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From:
grrlygirl
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:44 AM
Why not just have them block her, and not have all the drama??
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From:
CarolineS26
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:44 AM
Have her set up a free email address (hotmail, gmail - whatever) that she will never check. Have her tell your MIL that she DOES really want to get email from her (even if she doesn't) but she would rather her use her personal email address rather than her work email. Give MIL this newly created email address. Hopefully she can at least respect that request and will send emails to this new email address that your aunt never has to check - unless she wants to. Is that an option?
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From:
Manday
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:45 AM
I think your Aunt has the write idea. You should ask her once nicely to stop sending forwards. If she doesn't comply, say "MIL, I asked you not to send me forwards and you ignored me. I cannot deal with that many emails, so I am blocking your email address. From now on you need to call me if you need something. Let me know if you decide to stop sending forwards and I can unblock you."
From:
LaLaLisa
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:45 AM
Yeah, just block her and skip the confrontation.
Tell your aunt you have no preference as this is between her & MIL and while you sympathize you are standing on the sidelines. You can reassure her that your feelings towards her will not be affected by her dealings with MIL.
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From:
kris216
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:45 AM
This is already a done deal, right? It sounds like your aunt already blocked your MIL. Asking her to stop and then blocking her address if she didn't stop is pretty much what I would advised anyway, so your aunt handled it OK. Repeat forwarders who don't stop when asked are no better than telemarketers or spammers, IMO, so I think a bit of bluntness as a last resort is acceptable.
There's another lesson to be learned here, too -- do not give out your work email address. The only people who have my work email address are DH and my parents, and even they know not to use it unless they really need to contact me and can't get through via phone, and they certainly know not to send me forwards there.
From:
AppleJollyRancher
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:45 AM
I don't think there is another way to handle it. Just make sure DH is backing you up, and not letting MIL get away with blaming Aunt for being mean.
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From:
AleciaMarie
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:46 AM
Sounds like respect and reason are not included in your MILs vocabulary, I would honestly just block her- you guys have tried being nice!
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From:
KatieBride06
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:46 AM
my MIL does the same thing. she sent something last week about Obama and 'who he really is'. grrrr ... i'm thinking about just asking her to stop sending me that kind of crap.
From:
mellow_bride
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:47 AM
I think the way your aunt handled it was just fine. She asked nicely, it didn't work, so she blocked her emails and told your MIL. Nothing wrong with any of it. If your MIL is annoyed it's her problem. Honestly, if your MIL needs something from your aunt there's always the telephone or other members of the family.
From:
kris216
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:47 AM
p.s. When one of my relatives was constantly sending forwards, I told them my email address was changing, gave them one of my throwaway addresses, and then blocked their address from my "real" email. Now I only have to deal with their forwards when I choose to go in and look at them, which is very infrequently.
From:
NewlyWeds13
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:47 AM
thanks!
From:
ForForever
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:50 AM
She'd have gotten blocked a long time ago. :o)
From:
AliciaY
Date: 1/15/2008 at 11:54 AM
so as to not completely piss her off I would write a short email explaining that you work box is limited and you are going to have to block her email address due to the size and number of forwards she sends. If you can be removed from her dist list then she can remain unblocked and email you when needed.
From:
notapetrock
Date: 1/15/2008 at 12:02 PM
MIL got mad and told DH that my aunt was being mean and that how is she going to write her now if she actually needs something.
Has she heard the story about the 'Boy Who Cried Wolf'? Emailing someone is not a right, it's a privilege - and she abused it.
Have you asked MIL if she knows HOW to remove someone from her distribution list? She may know how to set one up, but maybe not edit it. In teaching her HOW to edit it when people make such requests, you could remove everyone you know doesn't want to be on it.
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From:
EastCoastBride
Date: 1/15/2008 at 12:15 PM
Block her! To her "how do I write to you then?" you all say "Well, if you had honored our requests and removed us from your political emails, this wouldn't be an issue....".
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From:
vanillacourage
Date: 1/15/2008 at 12:32 PM
Block her. If your MIL "really needs something", she can pick up the phone rather than email. Surely in case of emergency that's what she'd do anyway, right?
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From:
SoonToBeMsP
Date: 1/15/2008 at 1:03 PM
Ditto pp that say block and don't tell her.
That's absurd.
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From:
jak&imk
Date: 1/15/2008 at 1:33 PM
My MIL is also big on forwarding things. I noticed that there were certain names that were always on her mass distribution list, so I set up my email program to delete any email that came up with those names. When it's a personal email, it's just to the family or me, and those don't get deleted.
